Board of Directors

The Haven's Board of Directors have dedicated themselves to providing the best programs and facility through The Haven Foundation. The team provides direction for the staff at The Haven, and most are either program leaders or facilitators, and all are longtime participants in The Haven's personal development and professional development programs.

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Thomas Beshr Haven Board Director Thomas Beshr is a world traveller who is always up for a challenge and is new to the realm of conscious personal growth and development. As a father to six children in a blended family, Tom initially experienced the transformational work of the Haven by watching his children’s involvement with the Kids in the Spotlight program. Witnessing the positive change in his kids, Tom attended his first Come Alive in 2014 and took control of his own personal growth. Tom is keenly interested in the Haven’s children and youth programs. Tom is a fundraising professional, advocate, public speaker, and pilot with over 25 years of experience in both the airline industry and not for profit world. Tom is active in community through serving on non-profit boards and volunteering where he specializes in organizational partnership, collaboration and leadership. Tom lives in Comox, BC with his life partner April.
Andrew Bing Haven Board Director Andrew Bing has been working in business for over 40 years and for 20+ of those years owned his own software consulting firm. For the last 18+ years Andrew has been involved in management consulting specializing with manufacturing and distribution companies and currently travels all of the globe assisting companies in these areas. Andrew first came to the Haven in 2000 and received his Diploma in Counseling in 2007, he currently assists with Come Alive programs.
Mary Sullivan Holdgrafer Haven Board Director Mary Sullivan Holdgrafer holds an undergraduate degree in Home Economics from Pittsburg State University and a Master's Degree in Education from the University of Alberta. Following a long career in education she embarked on a second career as an artist, creativity coach and mentor. She has been associated with the Haven since 1992. She received her Diploma in Counselling in 1998. Currently she teaches two courses at the Haven, Healing Stitches and Creative Aging. She was instrumental in developing the Artist in Residence program at the Haven. Mary and her husband Gary have recently moved to Gabriola Island.
Dale Kelly Haven Board Director Dale Kelly B.Ed., MA, has thirty-two years experience as a group facilitator. His career includes teaching in public school, adult education, and university. He has received several awards: among them a UNESCO Fellowship to study Polish culture in Poland, awarded for leadership in international understanding and the Hilroy Fellowship, a Canadian national award for innovation in education. On three occasions he had the honor of conducting the annual two-week Thompson Fellowship leadership training for Third World teacher leaders in Ottawa. Dale has conducted workshops and seminars in Canada and, as well, he has led international leadership programs in Ghana and Sri Lanka. Since retiring in 2001 he has pursued his longtime interest in Zen studying with Roshi Shinzan Miyamaei, Abbot of Gyokuryuji temple in Japan. He became a lay monk in the Rinzai tradition in 2006. He found much overlap with his Haven experiences and Zen training.
Jane Kilthei Haven Board Director Jane Kilthei has worked as a writer, editor and activist, and was a founding member of a rural intentional community. She and her partner Larry eventually left community life to train as midwives. Jane practiced midwifery in Ontario for 15 years while also working to bring midwives, and a more relational approach to maternity care, into Ontario’s legislated health care system. She led the negotiations with government for midwives’ first contract. In 1997 she came to BC to work as Registrar and Executive Director of the newly formed College of Midwives and bring midwives into BC regulated health care. After 17 years with the College, Jane retired to start her own consulting business with a resilience focus. She’s been coming to the Haven since 2000, received her Diplomas in Counselling and Group Facilitation in 2014, and continues to participate in Haven programs, as well as with the Inner Activist.
Dea Lloyd Haven Board Director Dea Lloyd has been many things: a seller of soap and a vendor of books, a tree planter, a bill collector, a student, a secretary, a traveller, a researcher, a birdwatcher, and most recently a lawyer working in public service. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science and a Juris Doctorate in Law. Dea’s experience at The Haven began with her first course in 1999 and continues to this day. It spans workshops led by its founders and early leaders, Ben Wong, Jock McKeen, and Joann Peterson; courses with many capable newer faculty, and exciting non-curriculum programs such as the Inner Activist. Dea is excited to serve on the Board and give back to The Haven, which has been a wellspring of wellbeing and inspiration over the years.
Cathy McNally Haven Board Director

Cathy McNally spent most of her life in Hong Kong, has a BSc in Business from the UK, and a career spanning a variety of types and sizes of organizations, including pioneering executive coaching in Southeast Asia in the early 90's. Throughout this journey, her key interest has been people - the human factor. Associated with The Haven since 1989, Cathy met her late husband, Ernie, while interning together in 1996. She received her Diploma in Counselling in 1998, is a member of Core Faculty, and has a business offering facilitation, counselling, and coaching services.

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I would like to express my gratitude towards everyone who has donated to the financial aid program at the Haven. There are times in peoples' lives when they are ready to grow and move on to a better way of living and they just don't have the means to do so. For was a life-changing experience.

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